Why I Won't Do Your Hair
I'm not trying to be funny or fake. Let's talk about this, your hair is your dead skin cells...YOUR HAIR IS YOUR DEAD SKIN CELLS! I take doing hair so seriously because it is a serious matter to me. I've been doing my own hair since my pre-teen years. Before then, my mom would slay my hair on a bi-weekly or monthly basis. I did my hair out of the religion of doing it until I got to high school.
At 14, I committed to the free tress shake-n-go wig life in order to transition my hair off of its relaxer cycle. By 18 my hair did a new thing, then abruised (I said, what I said) her with consistent sew-ins. So at 22, I cut all my hair off and tried again. I love my hair, I love what I've been through with my hair. With all that being said... I can count on one hand, how man people have laid hands on my hair.
Again, not being funny or fake, bad or boujee, just honest.. If hair is your dead skin cells, then it's an extension of who you are and where you've been. Yes, hair is also just hair, but to the person placing their hands in your head, it should be so much more than that. Hair is an extension of whatever unique individual client that you are working with, so no Sally, I won't put the same exact braids that were in her head, in yours. However, I will put a similar style into your head with that idea in mind.
A little while back, I would just choke up when anyone asked me to do their hair or make-up. It could be my best friend or an acquaintance, I would still choke up and reluctantly agree. It wasn't until just recently that God allowed me to understand exactly what my prerogative was... I have to get to know you before I do your hair, or make-up...but it's not as deep or scary as I thought.
Let's really talk, have some consultations, and let me get to know you before I can adequately enhance the existing being. It's the same respect that I had to learn to show myself, I am not hiding myself under trends or tutorials anymore. I am loving on myself and learning how to manifest that love through how I adorn myself via hair and make-up. I want to do the same thing for you. I want to make you feel like the most beautiful Karen, the most handsome Jonathan, the most authentic and real YOU. You'll love it I promise, but let the days of walking into a salon with Kim Kardashian expectations cease.
God made you beautifully, just the way you are. I would love to assist in your journey of self-expression by doing your hair, doing your make-up, styling you, or whatever else. Just know that it's a spiritual thing for me, and if you don't know what it is to you, then I challenge you to find out.
Peace, Love.
Emeri
Intercession
I first have to acknowledge that God gives me my joy.
The following second, I must acknowledge that my God given joy is a gift that’s been created specifically for me!
Thank you God for joy!
My joy was delivered by none other than my great redeemer, my Lord, and my savior, Jesus Christ!
Thank you Jesus for being my spiritual counsel and my divine representative.
Thank you God for Jesus!
After Jesus met us where we were at, you sent an extra blessing of protection, the Holy Spirit! Thank you Holy Spirit for baring the breath of life and bringing a message of love.
Thank you God for the Holy Spirit!
In the name of the father, the son, and the Holy Spirit.
Amen.
Word Cleanse | The Beginning
I have to keep reminding myself to listen to what I am saying... really do any of us actually hear what we are saying?!
I know that I have been so scared to hear myself, because I have nothing left to say but the truth.
I have a potty mouth... why I have a potty mouth is a tangent that I am currently exploring while taking a can of scrubbing bubbles to the situation...
...in less colorful terms, God is helping me to understand my own words and the power behind them.
I have been a writer my entire life. (Proverbs 18:20-21)
(you’ll catch me saying that about a lot of things, but it’s the truth.)
I have always been pulled towards communication in general, but my love of words was definitely reinforced by my mother. Mom loves books and big words!!! True story, my mom would express her disdain with us with very precise word choice (it’s actually terrifying). Mom always directed us to the dictionary if we didn’t understand. Then, when google came around, it was definitely a quicker means to an end.
That really fueled the fire that is my nerd-love of all things wordy! That, and I used to read the Bible daily as a kid...which is a whole other tangent...
Anyways, I love words so much but y’all know that I’ve been struggling with depression, anxiety, chronic pain, etc. We all have plethoras of conditions to attend to throughout life. In the midst of this, my words have gotten a bit jumbled up... so I’m rediscovering a lot, and one of those things is actually hearing WTF I’m saying... really.
WE TELL ON OURSELVES! HUMANS ARE CREATURES OF PROJECTION! If you’re mean to yourself, I know it because you are mean to me too... AND VICE VERSA!!!! 110 out of 100 times, if you feel the need to really assert your opinion into/onto anyone or anything *leans in closely* then it is YOU, (YOURSELF: the person who’s opinion it is) who needs to hear it the most!!!
*drops mic*
Im going to leave that there and say, this Lenten season, I gave myself away. I have noticed that I basically verbally abuse myself in my head and that probably isn’t healthy. God is helping me with it though... by changing my language, by changing the way that I communicate, and so much more..
We know that life is balance and truly everything is one in the same (1 Corinthians:13)... so when I have been speaking, I have been trying to listen to what I’m saying and be conscious and intentional with my words, just as my mother taught me... and I’ve been telling on myself... have you?
Bold = state of mind or perspective
The words that follow are examples of verbal manifestations of the bolded state of mind or perspective!
Manic | Optimistic | Subjective | Mental
“Things could get worse, but they are going to get better.”
Depressed | Realistic | Objective | Physical
“Things could get better, but they are going to get worse.”
Instead of being proud, remember to be thankful, joyful, overjoyed, glad...
"I am proud."
Humbled | Selfless
"I am overjoyed, I am glad."
This is really just the beginning of a new journey that I am excited and honored to be living! I am so thankful for the resources given to me by my one and only source! There are such beautiful people in my life who contribute to each and every one of these posts! Special shout out to my sister over at
Jenn is inspiring us all on the daily! Her perspective is such a blessing! A recent talk with her prompt the completion of this thought.